The Biggest Mistakes Couples Make After Deciding to Elope (And How to Avoid Them)
So, you’ve decided to elope—heck yes! No guest list drama, no seating charts, just an intimate and intentional day focused on you two. But before you dive into planning, let’s talk about a few common mistakes couples make after choosing to elope. I’ve seen it all, and trust me—avoiding these will make your elopement experience so much smoother and stress-free.
1. Not Hiring a Photographer Early Enough
Elopements may be smaller in scale, but that doesn’t mean you should wait until the last minute to book your vendors—especially your photographer. The best photographers (especially those who specialize in adventure elopements) book up fast. If you have a dream location or a specific season in mind, reach out to your photographer as soon as possible. Not only will they help capture your day beautifully, but many also assist with location scouting, timeline planning, and navigating permits!
How to Avoid This:
Start looking for a photographer as soon as you choose your elopement date (or at least your general timeframe). If you’re flexible on dates, ask your photographer what availability they have for your dream location.
2. Underestimating Travel & Timing
Just because you’re eloping doesn’t mean you can just show up at your dream spot five minutes before saying “I do.” Many stunning elopement locations require a bit of hiking, driving on backroads, or working around sunrise/sunset lighting. I’ve seen couples underestimate the time needed to reach their location, leaving them feeling rushed on their big day.
How to Avoid This:
When choosing your elopement location, research how long it takes to get there and factor in extra time for getting ready, hiking (if needed), and any unexpected delays. If you’re working with a photographer, they can help you build a timeline that ensures a relaxed, stress-free day.
3. Forgetting About Permits & Legalities
Some of the most breathtaking elopement spots require permits, and nothing kills the mood faster than a park ranger telling you that you can’t have your ceremony there. Plus, depending on where you elope, marriage laws vary—some places require an officiant, while others let you self-solemnize.
How to Avoid This:
Once you have a location in mind, research the necessary permits or ask your photographer for guidance. For legal requirements, check the state’s marriage laws and make sure you have everything in order ahead of time (like officiant bookings or applying for a license).
4. Thinking an Elopement Has to Be Just the Ceremony
Eloping doesn’t mean your day has to be short and simple (unless that’s what you want). Your elopement is your wedding day—it deserves to be special, memorable, and celebrated. Some couples make the mistake of treating it as a quick exchange of vows instead of a full-day (or multi-day!) experience.
How to Avoid This:
Think beyond just the ceremony! Plan a full-day adventure—whether it’s hiking to a stunning overlook, having a romantic picnic, popping champagne, exploring a national park, or cozying up by a campfire. Your elopement should feel like an experience, not just a short event.
5. Not Dressing for the Elements
Nature is beautiful, but it can also be unpredictable. I’ve seen couples freeze in the mountains, overheat in the desert, or struggle with footwear on rough terrain. Choosing the wrong attire can make your elopement less enjoyable and even impact your photos.
How to Avoid This:
Dress for the season and location! If you’re eloping somewhere cold, bring layers (yes, even under your wedding dress). If you’re heading to a hot climate, choose breathable fabrics. And if your location involves hiking or uneven ground, wear proper shoes—you can always swap them out for dressier ones for photos.
6. Not Having a Backup Plan
If you’re eloping outdoors, you need a backup plan—because Mother Nature does what she wants. Rain, snow, wildfires, or unexpected trail closures can all throw a wrench in your plans if you’re not prepared.
How to Avoid This:
Have a Plan B (and even a Plan C). If you’re working with a photographer, they’ll usually have alternative locations in mind. Just stay flexible, and remember—it’s all part of the adventure!
7. Not Telling Anyone
While elopements are all about intimacy and privacy, some couples regret not telling anyone beforehand. Your loved ones don’t have to be at the ceremony, but keeping them in the loop can help avoid hurt feelings down the road.
How to Avoid This:
If you think your family might be disappointed, consider telling them in advance or including them in some way—like FaceTiming them after the ceremony, sending a heartfelt announcement, or planning a celebration dinner when you return.
Final Thoughts
Eloping should be a stress-free, magical experience filled with adventure and all the love. By avoiding these common mistakes, you can ensure that your day is everything you dreamed of (and more). Need help planning your elopement? Let’s chat—I’d love to help you create an unforgettable experience!
